Turn Up the Heat in
Your Marriage by Trying These Tips
and Otto Collins
like a lot of people in long-standing marriage, you
may be longing for the days when your love for each
other was obvious to everyone.
have looked at one another for hours, laughed
together at small things, kissed until the wee hours
of the night. But now your life together is filled
with so many other things that pull you apart
instead of draw you closer together.
You may be
wondering where the passion has gone and how do you
get it back.
news is that you can rekindle passion that has died.
It just takes a bit of refocusing, looking at your
partner in a new way and it starts before you even
get to the bedroom.
Here are 4
ways to begin bringing more romance back into your
relationship and they may not be what you think...
generous with sincere compliments and
appreciation. Sincere compliments and appreciation
can uplift you and your partner—and can draw you
closer. So often a compliment or a word of thanks is
followed up by a complaint. If this is your habit,
stop doing it.
go to bed angry. Of all the couples we've talked
with and interviewed who have been married 30, 40,
and 50 years, this is the most consistent advice
they have given us. Take some time when a conflict
comes up between the two of you to talk it out.
Listen to each other with love and not judgment.
if you are busy or tired, open your heart to your
partner. Opening your heart means taking the time to
listen and understand your partner. It means telling
your partner what’s important to you and not making
assumptions. It means not using the "I'm tired" or
"Not tonight, I have a headache" excuse to stop
love-making. Be honest about why you aren't in the
mood and take a few moments to connect in other
Continue to explore each other. There's always
something new you can learn about your loved one,
even if you have been together for many years.
Don't assume that you know everything about them.
just a few ideas to rekindle the trust and passion
between the two of you and to keep your relationship
alive, passionate and filled with love.
remember that love is a choice that we open up to in
every moment. You always have the choice of where
you place your attention. We hope that you'll join
us in choosing love more of the time.
Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Red Hot
Love Relationships," invite you to visit
to learn how you can
bring more passion into your relationship.