How Romance and Connection Go
and Otto Collins
The biggest romantic
"turn-on" for us is when we feel a strong connection
with each other. The smallest things can create that
connection and then turn into a special romantic feeling for each other.
Here are a couple of things
that have happened recently that will help you to
understand what we mean...
Susie's mother has severe
dementia, able to respond and interact with us on a
very limited basis, and is in a nursing home. She
and Otto were never really able to get to know one
another because she already had dementia when he
came into Susie's family.
So any mutual love that
might have been there, never had a chance to
The other day, when Susie
visited her mom, Otto went with her. Believe it or
not, as he gave Susie's mom a lot of attention and
love, inadvertently he was also creating a deeper
connection with Susie.
What this kind of connection
does is create a lot of trust, which in turn, allows
both people to open to allowing and wanting more
romance with each other.
Here's another example of what
we're talking about...
The other evening, Otto was
running errands and was a lot later than he usually
is. He took a moment to find a phone and call Susie
to let her know where he was and when he'd be home.
Now, he could look at this as a
chore and something that he "had" to do or he could
look at it as an act of love and respect that will
bring us closer.
Something as small as one phone call, coupled with
the intention to bring us closer, does create a
closer connection between us and in turn, more
If you still
aren't convinced, try it yourself and find out. Do
some small act of love and kindness from your heart
and discover how you can strengthen your connection.
As your connection grows, so will your romance.
We urge you to give it a try!
Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Red Hot
Love Relationships," invite you to visit
to learn how you can
bring more passion into your relationship.