What Our Bodies are Saying When We
Don't Even Know
By Susie and
Many years ago
the singer and performer Olivia
Newton John had a hit song that was
titled "(Let's Get) Physical" and
one of the lines in the song was...
"Let me hear
your body talk, your body talk, let
me hear your body talk"
While we're not
100% sure what Olivia was trying to
tell us in her song, we do know that
our bodies DO "talk" in very real
and tangible ways if we are open to
hearing what they are trying to say
your body can (and very often does
try to) give you messages about
things you need to pay attention to,
not only in our relationships but in every aspect of our lives.
We're often so
concerned about our weight, the whiteness
of our teeth, or our hairstyle that we don't
realize that the impression we make
goes so much deeper.
Curious to know
more about this?
Want to find
out what your body could be saying
to you and the people in your life
that you might be unaware of?
Susie attended a free talk given by
her friend Suzanne Roberts on
Embodied Leadership for Women. As
strange as it may seem, Susie and
the other women attending got to
see, hear, feel and learn firsthand
that your body really does "talk."
Susie had the
chance to experience what it felt
like in her body to come from the
strength of who she truly is versus
what happens in her body and what
she shows others when she falls into
old patterns that limit her.
In the class
Susie attended last night, she was chosen as one of the "guinea pigs"
and was someone that Suzanne (the
instructor) used to help demonstrate
some of the key concepts she was
trying to share with the group.
wasn't a new concept to Susie, it was still
somewhat surprising to her that someone else
could "read" her body language so
well, even when she's not
consciously aware of what she was showing.
interesting for Susie in this class was that when
she was consciously connecting with
her core strength and values, the
women who were watching experienced
her to be a much more open, friendly
and vibrant person as opposed to
when she wasn't in that strong place
observations in no way are meant to represent
Suzanne's work in this area but merely to bring
up some ideas that you might find
useful and helpful in your
relationships and other parts of
One study that
was quoted in the presentation found
that 93% of trust is built on what
your physical body shows others,
consciously or unconsciously.
What we may not
realize is that the reactions of
others--whether they trust us or
not--are based largely in what our
body shows them rather than the
words we say or what we do.
You might call
it "intuition" or "gut feeling" but whatever
it's called, we are all "reading"
each other and making judgments from
those "readings" in every encounter
What does this
have to do with you and your
relationships--and what can you do
about it anyway?
We'll tell you
what it has to do with your
relationships--and you can do plenty
What if we
could consciously choose to show others the
strength of who we truly are as we
connect from our hearts with them more of
Can you imagine
how much more love, trust, joy and
happiness there would be if we all did
If this idea
intrigues you, there are some ways
to practice doing this, especially
as we get together with friends and
family during the holidays.
time to "practice" building connection and
trust in our relationships!
Here are a few
ways that we've found to be helpful
in "showing up" in strength, vibrancy,
purpose and love rather than from a fearful
place within us...
1. Know what
you stand for--what your values are--and
live from that place as much of the
time as possible. If you value
honesty, then be honest, especially
with yourself. If you value
non-judgment, then don't judge.
Remind yourself often what these
2. Take a
moment before being with others to
feel those values in your body--down
to your toes.
There's usually a warm
feeling and a feeling of strength
that happens in our bodies when we
do this. Try it and find out what
happens in your body.
3. When you
feel yourself being triggered or
pulled away into old patterns (and
we all do this), gently pull
yourself back into grounding in
who you truly are.
You could tell
yourself something like this...
"I know that
Uncle Paul just said something that
hurt my feelings and made me feel
like I was 6 years old again but I'm
anymore. I am
..." (run through your values and
what you stand for.)
into the present by reminding
yourself who you are and what you
want in your life.
We invite you
to experience more joy and love in
your life. We invite you to show who
you truly are and live from that
place inside you.
For information to help you communicate for
deeper connection and love, visit